Could you give your partner this giftof love?

Category: Dating and Relationships

Post 1 by forereel (Just posting.) on Monday, 06-Mar-2017 9:50:21

I hadn’t seen this until today, so thought I’d open this topic up again.
In the past, I have stated that if I ever became unable to be a complete partner to my mate, I would like them to continue to enjoy their sexual and social life.
I don’t wish to be left, but I don’t see why my mate should have to cut off this part of their lives.
In my case, I was speaking if I was going to live, just be unable to be with them on a physical and other level other than talking, or visiting.
Maybe I’m pearlized, or whatever.
In this case, this lady has terminal ovarian cancer.
I think her doing as she has done is the ultimate statement of love for her mate. She is Author Amy Krouse Rosenthal.
This isn’t the complete article I think, but a sample.
Wonderful. Smile.

https://www.nytimes.com/2017/03/03/style/modern-love-you-may-want-to-marry-my-husband.html?smid=tw-share&_r=1

Post 2 by margorp (I've got the gold prolific poster award, now is there a gold cup for me?) on Monday, 06-Mar-2017 11:06:24

This is a really tough question to answer. We all want to do what we can for our partner but will we do absolutely anything? I'm not sure.

Post 3 by lalady (This site is so "educational") on Monday, 06-Mar-2017 22:28:52

If I were terminally ill or just incapacitated so that I could no longer enjoy sex, I think that maybe I would rather that my spouse find someone to fill that void in his life even before I die. However, I would hope that he would not abandon me completely. By that I mean that I would want him to give me the support and affection as circumstances might allow. I doubt that I would go so far as to write a recommendation for a dating site for him. If it were my spouse that was incapacitated, I feel confident that I would be there for him for support without expecting or accepting such an agreement from him to allow me to find someone else.

Post 4 by Pasco (my ISP would be out of business if it wasn't for this haven I live at) on Tuesday, 07-Mar-2017 2:15:58

It is hard to know how I would react in such a case. I'd like to think I could allow my partner that freedom without feeling resentment. I hope I could be that generous.

Post 5 by Reyami (I've broken five thousand! any more awards going?) on Tuesday, 07-Mar-2017 5:40:19

agree with post three

Post 6 by ADVOCATOR! (Finally getting on board!) on Saturday, 11-Mar-2017 17:19:28

I'd have a hard time with that. I have a jealous bone, and have been mistreated in relationships too many times, for me to be all right with this kind of "Gift of Love." I can see my husband leaving me for someone new. Hope you understand my problems with this. Twice bitten, 4times-shy.
Blessings,
Sarah

Post 7 by margorp (I've got the gold prolific poster award, now is there a gold cup for me?) on Saturday, 11-Mar-2017 19:27:08

Oh yes understandable.